Author: Mrs Sandesh Manroa
Mrs Sandesh Manroa from Delhi ( Twitter handle – @sandeshmanroa) is a Principal in charitable institute. She deeply feels for social issues and has great interest in Indian Politics
…………………………………………………………………………………………………………
I had strong views on ugly pomp and show of money, but never thought would put it in words. Pradeep Sir kept on pursuing me to write an article for Yugvani which I could not refuse. There are numerous social evils in our society but the one which pinches and hurts me the most is Indian marriages. Why does a bride’s father spend his whole life’s saving on his daughter’s marriage? So much money goes down the drain. If you have a money, why not give it to your daughter. Why show people that you have money to splurge. I have seen many couples who are facing financial trouble in their day to day life. One of my friend’s daughter is going through a massive crisis in her life. My friend spend all her savings on her daughter’s marriage be it on food, pandals, decorations; this all totaled to many a lakhs.
Her in-laws threw her out few months after her marriage and she frequently oscillating between her in law’s place and her mother’s home for the next four years. That young girl was tortured at her in-laws place, food was not provided to her for days besides facing physical harassment from her husband and mother in law. Police and peace had become part of her everyday life. Her parents wanted her to somehow settle at her in-laws only despite all the trouble she was facing. However, since the last two years she has been with her mother only, and she has a 2 year son. She is not qualified enough to pick up a decent job and is facing great depression. Currently her condition is so bad that her mother is suffering from mental illness, the poor girl is not wanted at her parent’s place too because of her brother’s and his life. She is even ready to work as a daily helper but again social stigmas prevent her from doing so. If this money had been put in the daughter’s name things would have been different. Why we spend so much money to show off our wealth to the relatives and guests who are just present at the marriage to eat, drink and criticize the arrangements.
The Girl’s father is a retired principal of a high school, mother was herself a teacher. Had they had channelized their education to invest their savings in the right places instead of catering to the endless social obligations their daughter would have been in a better condition now.
…………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Yug Vani fully support the writer’s view. We should not be fascinated by the Obscenity of Money Power, rather use it in such a way that it give comfort & benefit for which it is earned.
…………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Disclaimer: Yug Vani invites stories, comments, cartoons, jokes and any other information that would be of interest to general readers. We reserve the right to accept or refuse submissions and edit for content and length. We also reserve the right to refuse advertising that in our opinion does not reflect the standards of this website. The opinions expressed, whether by paid advertisement or editorial content does not necessarily reflect the views of this website. Content submitted may be reprinted and acknowledged without consent unless specifically requested.
- Right to Education - May 27, 2014
- Right to Education - May 22, 2014
- Are We Preaching Cruelty? - March 4, 2014
u have a very valid point here ,, absolutly true ,, this pomp and show has become an evil in our society ,, hard earned money down the drain
all things in moderation are good, money spend in marriages provide employment to so many people ,caterers tentwala , tailors , embriodery walas , flower wala etc etc
my point is spend but priorities should be clear , first make your daughter’s future safe then go and splurge money …..
Thanx Dear!Yours comments are valuable for me.
I totally agree with the author. It is an awfully criminal waste of money. This stupidity has to stop. I don’t know what is happening to our society. As the days are passing by the incidences are on the rise including dowry menace. I agree with the suggestion that rather than spending for show off, keep that money in daughter’s name to cover any unforeseen events
Thank you. A heart touching narrative.
Sir #Humbled.Very strong views. Your appreciation my motivation. Thanx.
Madam, first of all I had a chance to see you here. You have touched on a subject, that haunts many middle class households. I got two daughters marries with utmost simplicity. But we get few lucky ones like us. We should shed extravagance, Organizations like RSS should educate educate people without hurting sentiments. Hope you will initiate it. RSS has large mass base across the nation.
SIR!Me jubilant you read my article. Naman .Gurudev!Have learned from you nd one of my friend .You both encourage me.RSS is in my blood.
Money is a tool of social interaction. Must not become a weapon of life. Societal mores have changed to lead people astray from discerning values of life. Love in intrinsic,so is wisdom. Money-sense must be imbibed,not cultivated. Well articulated. Kudos to you. May better sense prevail in all those who are enriched by your outpourings. Best,PVR
Sir !humbled with appreciation. Don have words to thank you.
The author has done her best to bring a menace of our society to the fore.This in one evil which is mother of many other evils infecting our society.It must be curbed but ill gotten wealth have alsi to br diaplayed.There is a race who spends how much.
Suffice to say that this evil must be put to rest as quickly as possible.Congratulation Ma’m.
Appreciation from you is a very big thing.Sir#humbled.